Sounds like you need some tough skin for this job - I bet there are a lot of happy parents who just haven't got around to thanking you yet.
16 Sep 12 by member: BuffyBear
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My payback is when I see those kids smile when they accomplish something and they know how hard they worked for it. That is why I coach.
16 Sep 12 by member: Soulnoid
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Be prepared to possibly see the same attitude from the parents...she learned this behavior somewhere. Of course, they may be unaware they are teaching this to her...if it is them. Hope it all goes well. Keep your cool and show how much confidence you have in their child and that you need their help. I'n not a parent, so that is how I would approach it. I'm sure you will do fine with 10 years of experience. :-)
16 Sep 12 by member: ppphhhttt
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You are so right about getting out of your comfort zone. I am seeing it as I go back to school this year. People who are open, and learning, and others who are fighting every step of the way...avoiding doing the exercises, because they are "past" that. You are never too good to learn. Never. Good luck. Dealing with parents and their expectations for their kids has to be the hardest part of coaching.
16 Sep 12 by member: yduj57
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man sound like u had a rough day:( hope tomorrow u r able to get those parents to see where u are coming from other wise there daughter is the one that gets hurt in the end. Dont beat yourself up abt this myself as being a parent I also can say maybe (IDO) over react at first until I sit down and get the whole story hope it works out for ya.:)
16 Sep 12 by member: bonthronm
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Consider using third-party language to explain the situation to the parent. By that, I mean, say: "when I see a child acting in X way, I work to push this child to do Y instead." if you are not speaking directly about the girl, the parent will likely take it less personally. You can do it!
17 Sep 12 by member: Heidijoy
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Kuddos Coach!!! I grew up watching both parents coach (dad football and baseball and mom my sis cheerleading, never coached me,,, I was one of those that didn't do well with mom or dad as a cheer or softball coach lol). They were full of tough love and even for me not as my coach. Bottom line was if you aren't going to give it 100% don't do it because you are just bringing everyone else down. I have continued that attitude and although my kids and those I have coached in the past don't always like it I know they will thank me someday. Great job and good luck, it's never easy.
17 Sep 12 by member: thynes
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I agree with HeidiJoy about the best way to approach because it is likely the parents will com ein defensive - it is important you stay completely calm and rational. I deal with parents of "troubled" chikdren often so it is better to inocrporate the idea ALL children doing whatever get the SAME coaching - not just their kid. ANd, Validate what the parents have to say before invalidating them - will smooth over stuff. Coaching also is about diplomacy - not just being right!
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18 Sep 12 by member: erika2633
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erika, YUP! but we got past it, without any major talk, they did the right thing and set her straight before the next practice.
21 Sep 12 by member: Soulnoid
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Erika cuts to the chase again! LOL Glad it worked out!
21 Sep 12 by member: jessabridge4444
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