Tomorrow is my mom's birthday. I haven't seen her in over 6 months. I can't call her (her phone has incoming calls disabled). She won't respond to email. She doesn't know where I live, but that is intentional for my family's welfare (and my own too...my mom is very sick, and usually unmedicated/ not participating in treatment. I need clear and safe boundaries to prevent her dysfunction from upsetting me and my family's life too much.) The weight of all of that is kind of hitting me right now and it sucks. :( However, here are two songs that help to encourage me when things are like this: "Oceans" (Where Feet May Fail)Code:<iframe width="560" height="315" src="//www.youtube.com/embed/1m_sWJQm2fs?rel=0" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe> "How He Loves Us" (performed by Kim Walker)Code:<iframe width="420" height="315" src="//www.youtube.com/embed/geHF1zbA25U?rel=0" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe>
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The code showing was my attempt at embedding the videos directly in my journal. At least on my browser that seems to have failed. The links above each correspond to the videos that would show if the HTML/ coding worked (aka if I had known what I was doing when I was trying to post it in the first place.)
30 Jun 14 by member: MrsTofu
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Beware Rant Ahead
I haven't seen my mother in years and the last time I tried she wouldn't answer the door. I feel less and less bad and angry with each passing day. It was July 1996 that I formally told here to GTFA. If this type of person didn't want you to have to set up boundaries to control their psychosis from affecting your life they wouldn't continue their behaviors. I don't care if you gave me life, I don't want my life intertwined with their "Woe is me" life.
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30 Jun 14 by member: jparlett
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JP, I definitely hear where you are coming from and have been in that state of mind before with my mom. Honestly I am not sure what I feel towards her, there are many things: anger, sadness, pity, frustration, disappointment, incredulity,resignation, confusion, dismay. I am glad you feel less angry because I remember the weight I felt disappear when I realized I no longer hated my first brother. That heaviness is awful, I wouldn't wish it on others. Hopefully you also have other people who help fill the gaps/ voids your mom left. (I realize that no one can exactly fit that role when the person who has it by nature is neglecting it, but having positive relationships certainly deflates/dissipates the negativity that we can absorb from people like our moms.)
30 Jun 14 by member: MrsTofu
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I'm so sorry. I hope something works out for you. You do have to protect you and your family. Parent's are in most cases special but sometimes that's not the case. My girls have been through it with their Dad's issues. I'm so thankful I have my girls and my grandchildren.
30 Jun 14 by member: wholefoodnut
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